Three Unalterable Truths

The year came in peacefully enough.

The month of January gave no hints of what was to come. Sure, there was a report on New Year’s Eve that there were a handful of cases of an unknown virus in Wuhan, China. Who knew that this was just a small brush fire ready to turn so many people’s world to ashes? Just another story about a disease so far away that didn’t seem cause for concern. Mistake number one…

The pandemic begins

By February, travel was restricted, March brought a declaration of a national emergency for the U.S…


“Life is about choices. Some we regret, some we’re proud of. Some will haunt us forever. ” Graham Brown

What a paradox life can be. You heal the most when you feel the worst. I have lost parents, a child, my job, my home, my savings, and what I thought my future path was. With some of the losses, I chose to grieve. With others, I just moved on. The ones that I tried to play through still haunt me just as Graham Brown said they would. Now is a time of loss for so many. Lost jobs, lost dreams, and even lost life are now a reality of the world’s daily headlines. I have no way of knowing…


Fear of What Exactly?

I had so much trouble taking the leap to get my coaching and consulting business started. I wanted everything to be just right. I wanted no public mistakes that would embarrass me. So, I studied and studied what to do. In truth, I just used every excuse I could find so I wouldn’t look foolish. It was really about selling my services, and I was scared I’d fail. As I read this by Colin Dowling, I knew what I had to do. He said selling is a lot like golf. You can make it so complicated…


Few things in life can cause paralysis quicker than a feeling of fear. I have found myself stuck in place simply because of fear. That’s not a straightforward statement to write or to admit. The mere acknowledgment that fear, at times can be controlling, may be seen as a sign of weakness. The truth is, none of us are immune to fear every minute of our life. I’ve come to realize that it isn’t merely strengthening our resolve that creates success but instead, dealing with our fear that also ensures our future life’s goals. …


So exactly what is a flourishing life and why would you want to lead one? If being the most mentally ill possible is a negative-ten, zero is not ill or happy, a flourishing life is a positive-ten. The happiest, most fruitful, and most fulfilled life is termed a flourishing life. What do positive emotions have to do with this? Negative emotions like anger yield action. You get angry, you yell. Too angry, you may hit a wall. Positive emotions differ. They don’t bring on the action, they bring on thought. These thoughts help develop imagination, introspective thought, love, and empathy…


A life without a purpose is like riding a bike without the ability to steer. You can pedal like crazy, but your destination is left up to luck. Yet many people have no clue about what their life’s purpose is. Some don’t even know why they need to think about that. People were asked by a TV crew what their purpose in life was. The two most popular answers were “I don’t know” and “To have fun!” If you were in front of that TV crew right now, what would your answer be? Is it crystal clear in your mind…


Are you living in utter fear of the unknown events of tomorrow? If you’re one of the many that wakes up in the middle of the night with an unyielding brain that cannot be turned off, you know exactly what that means. With your wondrous imagination, you are able to give real life to what could be the worst outcome of tomorrow. Then there are those who live with a true regret of the choices that were made and outcomes of the past. Unable to reconcile that the past can’t be altered, the specter of regret grows ever larger. Unfortunately…


We live in a time of fear. Is this pandemic that grips the world ever going to go away? Yes, history has shown us it will. The Black Death, SARS, the Spanish Flu, the Asian flu, and Hong Kong pandemics all came, ragingly took a toll, and subsided. So will COVID-19. And if and when it does, what will be left in its wake? Devastation in the form of death, lost businesses, lost jobs, memories of events that never occurred, and so much more than we can’t even figure it out yet. The aftermath of each pandemic was loss, resilience…


You Will Not Get Through It, You will Conquer It

Artwork by Francesca Mendoza

You will face tough times. All people do. The question isn’t if, it’s when. Then, the query evolves into not what happens as you enter the event or situation, but what you’ll be like when you exit the episode. The successful path you need isn’t merely a quick choice to triumph, rather it’s a process that you’ll follow for the entire duration of your struggle. So what is the process that will ensure you come out the conqueror, not the vanquished? …


Artwork by Francesca Mendoza

As you take stock in where you are right now, you may be pleased, just ok, or pissed. It may not surprise you that there is no one, read no one, that wants to remain at the present level of achievement. We all want to grow. Everyone wants to get better. Not a genuine surprise, right? It doesn’t matter whether it’s in better shape, making more money, or finding a better job. Everyone wants to be better off. Here’s the message, there are three things that, if you do, the chances of your success will skyrocket. Likewise, if you don’t…

Paul Harrell

I began Over the Wall Coaching, not asking if I’d be successful, but rather how many people could I help achieve their dreams.

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